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How To Be A Good Mom (11 Actionable Tips)


Every mother’s dream is to be the best mom to her child and a good wife to her husband. 

But, how can you become a good mom amid all the chaos and stress we find in many homes today?

That is the reason for this article.

Being a mom is a natural gift that comes from being a woman. 

But then, it is not always easy, especially when you are a Stay At Home Mom.

There are times when you’ll be bored.

Other times, you may be stressed out.

In our average African homes, you already know how our kids will make us shout our voice out.

Wahala for people like us that have a very tiny voice. (cough)?

Oh! Let’s not forget the mood swings and other drama that comes with being a mom.

Many things can easily make you lose your cool.

And when you unleash, your child may be like, “Na my mama be this?”?

Well, it doesn’t have to get to this point.

I know being a mom is not as easy as it sounds.

If you are a single lady reading this, you better go to the gym and start preparing for what lies ahead.??

Being a mom no be porridge beans.??

However, it is one of the best things that can ever happen to you.

But more importantly, you will enjoy your motherhood better when your child and your hubby can be very proud of you.

So how can you be a good mom to attract their praises and love?

Let’s find out!


Here are 11 actionable tips to be a good mom to your child and hubby

These tips are efficient.

If you apply them to your life and daily living, you will notice many changes in your relationship with your husband and your children.

In fact, you will become your children’s best friend and attract a lot of love and respect.

Here are mom hacks that will make you be a good mom to your hubby and your children.

1. Have listening ears:

This is one of the essential characteristics of a good mom.

All moms must be good listeners.

You have to listen to understand your children and your hubby.

Even when you are angry, keep your anger in one corner and lend that listening ear before you blow up.?

2. Know when to apply pressure while cautioning your child:

Kids are hilarious. 

They tend to repeat what you ask them not to do.

I don’t know why they are that mischievous.

They always tend to attract beating and the spoiling of rods.?

But it does not have to be a consistent thing for you.

Always know when to caution with mouth talk and when to strike.

Please ooo, when you strike, don’t strike like thunder, because thunder destroys things.??

You get the point, right?

3. Learn to communicate with your kids:

Build a healthy relationship with your kids so you will know everything going on in their life.

You will know everything that happened at school, church, playground or anywhere just by communicating with them.

No matter how busy you are as a mom, always create the time to have a chat with your kids.

You might be surprised by the kind of gist you will get from them. 

It creates bonds between you and your children. 

Every surviving relationship is built on communication.?

4. You have to take care of your mental well being: 

Before you can become a good mom to your children, you must first be a good mom to yourself.

As much as moms are known for their workaholic nature, you need to take care of yourself and get good rest.

You also need to eat well and do the things that make you happy.

And if you don’t know how to stay happy, here are some habits of comfortable Stay At Home Moms that will help you.

You need to take care of your mental well-being because you can always take care of your own when you are in the right state of mind.

5.  A lot of Patience:

Patience is a key to parenting because, without patience, you will just give up on the job of being a lovely mom.

A lot of things will want to make you lose your cool.

Please don’t get hot.

Hold on a little and think about the consequences of your following action before you take it.

If you need help, here are some tips that will help you practice patience as a mom.

6. Pay attention to your child:

While listening to your child is very important, you also need to observe them.

Already, mom’s are the best detective officers you’ll ever know. 

I am still astonished at how I can detect a lot of changes in my kids.

Only a mom knows when her child is unwell and when the child is sleeping more than usual.

She can also tell when the child is acting strange and so on.

To be a good mom to your kids, you must also pay close attention to them.

Know when things are going wrong and support your kids as most kids may not tell you.

7. Be interested in their lives:

Yes!! You don buy the market.

When you start having children, you now have more lives to live.

You will become a gamer, a tailor, a musician or even play as a patient for your child that wants to become a doctor.

It turns out that moms are the best support engine to their kid’s lives. 

As history will have it, most celebrities, after winning an award appreciate their mom for their full support in their career.

As a mom, you have to know what your child wants, their interest in life, what they enjoy doing and be the best support the child can get in life.

8. Help your child build their confidence:

There are different types of moms.

Some uplift their children while some tear them down.

I urge you to be a supportive mom and not a castigating mom. 

When your child desire to do something, don’t tell them how incapable they are.

Always support their dreams no matter how big it is.

Whether your child wants to be president, doctor, pilot or a beauty queen, always support them.

Tell them they can do it; they have what it takes.

You don’t have to remind them how terrible they are in mathematics to be a pilot or how ugly they are to be a beauty queen.

I hope you understand this? 

It’s essential that you note how you throw your limitations on your kids.

9. Don’t compare your kids with others.

Never do this.

It kills a child faster than poison.

You remember how bad you felt when your parents from the older generation did this to you, right?

That’s how bad and terrible your kids feel when you start playing the comparison cards.

Comparison is as bad as not being supportive. 

Never compare your child with other kids, academically and otherwise. 

Every child is unique in their way and they all have a different time to bloom.

10. Celebrate them when they do well.

Kids tend to do well when their success and growth is celebrated. 

If you chastise your child when they are not performing well in learning and other things, you should applaud them when they do better.

When you celebrate your kids, make sure you don’t overdo it.

Just make sure you celebrate them according to the size of their wins.

11. Understand your Kids individually.

Kids are wired differently, and they can not act or behave the same way. 

A particular child may understand simple instruction without yelling, while another will have you emphasise several times before they do what you want.

In the case of studies, some learn quickly; some require extra lessons, while others learn better with pictures and videos.

Find out what works for your child and help them succeed.

You have to understand them to know how to deal with them individually. 


The importance of being a good mom to your children cannot be overemphasised.

Being a good mom will give you great satisfaction and peace.

You will build a happy home, and your kids and your hubby will be very proud of you.

I urge you to apply these tips today and then watch your family transform for good.

But I will like to learn from you… which of these tips are you going to apply to your life first?

Please, leave a comment in the comment section; let’s discuss.


Remember that motherhood is a journey made easy when we have the right people in our corner. ? 

So, click on this link to take you to the fantastic world of motherhood 

Keep being #fabulous ? 

Love & Light  

Viv ?

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