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8 Ways to Build Mommy Friendship

As a mother, it is good to learn how to build mommy friendship with other moms.

The reason is, like the saying goes, “no man is an island.”

Different things come with being a mom, for which you may not have all the experience. 

So, building mommy friendships with other moms will help you overcome those hard times.

But the big question is, “How can I build mommy friendship?”

Let’s find out…

How to build mommy friendship with other moms

I know that you can make your children your best friends.

However, the are just kids, and there are issues pertaining women which the may not know about.

I used “may” because this internet age children are something else. ?

That aside, friends don’t fall from heaven. Or do they? ??

So, you either make connections with other women who you’d like to be friends with or allow them to come to you.

In one way or another, someone will have to make a move. 

So, if you want to build a mommy friendship, here are some tips that will help.

1. If you need a friend, be a friend.

There is a saying in the excellent book that “the measure you give out that’s the same measure you’d receive.”

It applies to this subject matter too.

If you want to build friendships with people, then become a friend.

And on the days you need a friend, you’d see one out of the many you have tried to build.

2. Learn to admit and apologise for a mistake:

Always let go.

One thing that makes a relationship go sour is a statement like, “who does she think she is? If I say sorry, make I bend.”

That is pride and arrogance.?

Admitting wrong and sincerely apologising doesn’t make you a fool.

Instead, it gives you a special place in the heart of people.

How to build mommy friendship

3. Learn to communicate with people:

Communication is a big deal for some moms!

Me, I am the chief!!! 

Well, that is Until I became intentional.

Every relationship dies the moment communication is cut off.

Maintaining a long-lasting relationship include sending text messages and returning phone calls.

I know you are too busy, yet you still have to make out time for that.

Mind you; phone conversations must not replace physical meetings.

Once in a while, you should meet up and catch up.

4. Celebrate other moms who are doing well:

Do you see the love you feel when others celebrate your wins?  

That’s the same way other people feel too, when you celebrate them.

Get intentional about celebrating people; let them see they mean a lot to you.

Celebrate their wins, milestones and anniversaries.

It goes a long way to strengthen your bond.

5. Let secrets be secrets:

Okay, Mamma.

This one is cancer that not just eats but destroys friendships.

A secret is a secret.

If another person cannot trust you with a secret, then I’m afraid you may lose all your friendships.

I know you might give an excuse of “I shared it in confidence.”


That’s how it would keep moving from one ear to another in confidence.

Until the world knows it in confidence.?

I count this as a betrayal of trust, and friends shouldn’t betray friends.

Keep a secret.

If a friend tells you a secret, they trust you and believe that you will keep what they told you in the strictest of confidence.  

Again, it’s best to keep a secret a secret.!

6. Be Empathetic:

In building friendship, always bear in mind that you always have to put yourself in other people’s shoes.

It’s called Empathy!!!

A mom who can’t be empathetic or who can’t make excuses for others may not be able to build a long-lasting friendship.

Because you’d keep finding faults, and fault-finding does not end.

7. Hang out and Have fun:

Friendships, like any other relationship, can rot.

Especially if all you do with your friends is share your latest complaints every time, you see each other. 

Shake up that routine. 

Go out and do something fun you and other moms will enjoy.

You can also look at that list of new things to try that you came up with and do one of them.

The truth is, it’s great to have a friend you can open up all your burdens to.

But at the same time, you should create some happy memories together.

8. Keep your promises: 

If you know you can’t deliver something, don’t promise that you will. 

If you make a promise, do your best to keep it. 

It is better to say, “I don’t think I can make it on Saturday night, but let’s do lunch next week.”

This is better than saying you will show up and then accept a different invitation or cancel at the last minute.


Finally, Mamma, building friendship is a journey that can last a long time, and you can learn a few or more things on your way.

However, you have to be consistent, conscious and intentional about it.

So, do all you can to build that friendship with that mommy you admire as a friend.

Remember, Motherhood is a journey made easy when we have the right people in our corner. ?

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Keep being #fabulous ?

Rooting for you.

Viv ?

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